Goals & How To Achieve Them

Lectured by Jason Han PhD, Psychologist on Affirmations Balya Retreat 2000

Disclaimer: Notes recorded by Debby Blettner

The next lecture was by Dr Jason Han about goals and how to achieve them.

Goals – A goal is a statement of your current needs and wants. The needs and the wants can be very different!

Victor Frankl studied 2 groups of concentration camp prisoners. One group survived and the other group died. Why?

The group that survived all had a goal, they talked in great detail about their goal, with great gusto and enthusiasm, and held in their minds a picture of that goal. It was very graphic in their minds. They survived to see the goal fulfilled!

The group that died had not established any goals.

Carl Simonton studied 2 groups under treatment. There was no response to the treatment given to the group who had no goals.

There was a tremendous response to treatment given to the group that had set goals.

The stepping stones to success come with our own perception to look for the silver lining.

The shortest way to achieve goals is in 6 steps:

1) Be clear:

Write down on paper what you want. Wait one week. See if it is clear.

At the end of one more week or a month, check if it is still clear. If you are satisfied, then go for it! The initial step is the most important.

2) Realistic Goals:

Stretch your personal resources a little and it will do something for you. It will spur you on to more goals. Nothing succeeds like success.

Look for when and where to find the results to avoid disappointment.

Small improvements are improvements.

Health goals take time!

3) Prioritise.

Which goals are more urgent?

Health goals take president. Then you can do everything else.

Your health goal will help you to achieve your career goal. Mutually inclusive or mutually exclusive – single goal only. Accomplish one only.

4) Long term, Medium term and Short term:

Anything longer than a year is a long-term goal. Short-term goal is anything under a month.

Long term goals are difficult to sustain the motivation. Make it more achievable by making smaller goals and reach them during the same amount of time.

5) Commitment:

Put your heart and soul into it. Give the goal time, energy and concentration. Intention (not by chance), and attention (focus).

6) Want and belief:

Want it and believe you will do it. It is not a goal if someone else sets it for you. Do what you believe. Only use the methods that you believe in!

The most important condition is in Latin, Sine qua non – meaning, without which not. I think I can changes to, I can!

Note: All the above can be achieved through the logical mind and even more easily through the subconscious mind. The words “I can”, will motivate you to achieve. Where there is a will, there is a way. The will needs to be developed first. The “will” will help you develop the “way“.

The lecture was completed with the song, “Climb every Mountain”, from the Sound of Music”, music tract. This was followed by a “neck rub” session of everyone standing in a row and rubbing the neck of the person in front of them and turning around and reciprocating it to the one who was giving it.

Note: This lecture was preceded by a group therapy session in which we were asked to discuss: What is our greatest fear? We were asked to name five things we wanted to do after we were first diagnosed with cancer. Also name 5 things we wanted to do with our spouse after we were first diagnosed. This was followed by a relaxation/meditation.

Note: For my “health goals”, my Dr Ivy, suggested I project my Natural Killer (NK’s) cell goal of 350, to, for example, the year 2005. At the time they measured around 183. Then after my husband discovered he had cancer, the NK’s dropped to 138.

This long-term goal made it easier for me to relax about my goal. Having committed to it, I am not worried about it any longer. It took the sting out of it.

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